A good article explaining why catcalling is not and never was appropriate.
She doesn’t really address other related intersections, so let me just say as a genderqueer person, catcalling affects me in some very serious ways mentally and it is not fucking okay.
Sometimes I get catcalled, and when I say sometimes, I mean pretty regularly. Maybe you’re reading that sentence and thinking “Poor girl, it must be soooo hard to be thought of as attractive and have men compliment you. Let me play a song for you on the world’s smallest violin.” That wouldn’t be the first time I’ve gotten that response: I’ve found that my male friends and acquaintances, even the ones I know would never catcall, are generally pretty forgiving toward men who do catcall, cavalierly waving it away as a compliment that’s simply in poor taste and tsk tsking me for being a humblebragger. But as they forgive I also forgive them, because if they truly understood what it feels like to be catcalled, they would not be so cavalier.
This lack of understanding seems to be a function of the simple reality that historically, humankind has not looked…
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